Foundation: Module 3

Transcript

In this module, we’re talking a lot about boundaries and boundaries has always been a really heavy topic, I hear it to this day.

 

And I think it’s something that we all struggle with at times, especially if you’re someone that cares about people,

 

those of us that have this empathic trait that feel really deeply, because we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, right? We care, we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, leaders in organizations, if you tend to err on the feminine side of energy, you likely have maybe have her have had some work to do with boundaries.

 

Someone shared with me recently that boundaries are about teaching people how to communicate with us.

 

Everything that we do, we are teaching.

 

We are training someone how we want to be communicated with, and we have to continue to train every single day.

 

You’re teaching from a place of love, whether it’s your mom, your assistant, your husband, your kids, whatever it may be – we’re teaching people how how we would like to be communicated with.

 

Elevating to new heights and new levels, because again, we’re changing, it often becomes clear that our support needs need to be changed.

 

It gets the hardest when we’re creating a new habit.

 

As we’re creating new, better habits to help us within our lives, we also have to teach that to others, and might get negative feedback on it.

 

That’s okay. The community helping all of us move towards this change is hard for a lot of people to understand and to identify.

 

If you’re are getting kickback, or negativity back, that’s someone else’s business.

 

Their reaction your change is their business, not yours.

 

So allow yourself to feel love and to feel enough love to give this to you. You deserve it. Your Goals deserve it, your your dreams deserve it.

 

So as you’re creating boundaries, with them business, to your employees, to your team, to your clients, everything that we do we’re teaching, we are creating elements of time that we can work on our business, in our business, how are we choosing to communicate? Is it via email? Is it via text? Is it phone call? How can you help people and teach them how it is that you would like to be communicated. And it’s all about expressing that and communicating that.

 

So for example, if you are in business and you have a constant, you got a minute or you have clients that are calling you 24, seven, if you’re constantly just picking up the phone and reacting, you’re gonna get very little done during that day.

 

So how can you let it be and say, Hey, I’m available during this time, I don’t have a minute just now, but I do at 2pm today, or setting your schedule up so that you don’t have interruptions until a certain time in the day so that you can work through what you need to work through and getting yourself prepped and prepared for the day before all of the external things start coming to you.

 

It’s not about blocking, it’s not about not allowing, it’s just about managing it differently and taking your power back. And how you’re doing so. And that’s love that is love for you. And that is love for others.

 

I want to help you

I can’t help you if I’m drained.

I can’t help you if I’m so overwhelmed

I can’t help you if I’m pissed off because you keep freaking calling me every 10 minutes.

 

Beying annoyed doesn’t help anybody.

 

So what we need to do as business owners is to really understand and identify what we need.

 

Knowing that if we’re getting into a point where we are starting to get mad, we’re starting to get angry, we’re starting to get defensive.

 

That’s us playing defense that’s a boundary has been crossed or it hasn’t been set.

 

And oftentimes that falls on us, not the other person.

How can I do better with communicating and articulating what it is that I need to do that I need in order to grow my business

in order to focus on writing my book,

in order to record this podcast

in order to launch this new idea.

In order to show up with so much energy and so much love and so much compassion and so much leadership.

 

You have to protect your time. You have to protect your peace because if you’re empty, you can’t fill up everybody else’s bucket when yours is empty itself.

 

So how do we set strong boundaries, communication is one letting people know,

hey, I’m working on this, I’m so excited about it,

hey, my schedule is changing, just so you know, I won’t be available until after 10am.

I’m available between this time and this time,

scheduling your personal time love this as well.

My calendars now, I have all of my personal time scheduled out and I don’t have any guilt around it.

Because I know this is the time that I need in order to set myself up, in order to set my business up in order to give back to my family.

 

I’m designing my business around my life. Not trying to fit my life into my business.

 

The other thing that we need to get a lot better at is tuning out the noise outside. Tuning it out, allowing us to get put on your check, turn your phone over, put it in the room, close down your inbox, work on what you need to work on, get very clear on what you’re diving into before your day starts.

 

And don’t allow all of these crazy interruptions or people’s opinions to constantly come in, especially if you’re working on creative work.

 

If you’re diving into something new, if you’re really excited about something, be very mindful about what you’re allowing to come in feedback. If you didn’t ask for someone’s opinion. Don’t allow it to come into your mind and sway any decisions

 

protecting your time and from your peace from things that no longer serve you when you’re on this path, whether it’s people relationships, friendships, you can give love, you can still be acquaintances, but you don’t have to allow that you don’t have to maintain it.

 

And you really have to be mindful of where you’re going and allow certain things to let go.

 

Making space to expand into what it is that you’re creating. That’s growth, growth with love. We can meet it with compassion, we can meet it with love.

 

boundaries can be very take take the brown boundary approach with a lot of love.

 

When I first started really talking about boundaries, I was in a place of just playing defense. I thought boundaries are so hard and it’s like don’t fuck with me, right?

 

That doesn’t have to be what boundaries are boundaries are just saying,

Hey, this is what my schedule is.

Or actually i’m not i’m not available before 10am

I’m not available after 5pm

When can I get when can I get this scheduled for you

what works best for you.

 

Protecting your peace

protecting your time

protecting that play time, that creative time that space,

protecting the time that allows you to fill up with love and joy with happiness and whatever it is so that you can come into your world with so much fullness and so much love.

 

Protect your peace. Protect your dreams, protect your aspirations, protect it all with love.

 

And oftentimes that falls on us, not the other person.

How can I do better with communicating and articulating what it is that I need to do that I need in order to grow my business

in order to focus on writing my book,

in order to record this podcast

in order to launch this new idea.

In order to show up with so much energy and so much love and so much compassion and so much leadership.

 

You have to protect your time. You have to protect your peace because if you’re empty, you can’t fill up everybody else’s bucket when yours is empty itself.

 

So how do we set strong boundaries, communication is one letting people know,

hey, I’m working on this, I’m so excited about it,

hey, my schedule is changing, just so you know, I won’t be available until after 10am.

I’m available between this time and this time,

scheduling your personal time love this as well.

My calendars now, I have all of my personal time scheduled out and I don’t have any guilt around it.

Because I know this is the time that I need in order to set myself up, in order to set my business up in order to give back to my family.

 

I’m designing my business around my life. Not trying to fit my life into my business.

 

The other thing that we need to get a lot better at is tuning out the noise outside. Tuning it out, allowing us to get put on your check, turn your phone over, put it in the room, close down your inbox, work on what you need to work on, get very clear on what you’re diving into before your day starts.

 

And don’t allow all of these crazy interruptions or people’s opinions to constantly come in, especially if you’re working on creative work.

 

If you’re diving into something new, if you’re really excited about something, be very mindful about what you’re allowing to come in feedback. If you didn’t ask for someone’s opinion. Don’t allow it to come into your mind and sway any decisions

 

protecting your time and from your peace from things that no longer serve you when you’re on this path, whether it’s people relationships, friendships, you can give love, you can still be acquaintances, but you don’t have to allow that you don’t have to maintain it.

 

And you really have to be mindful of where you’re going and allow certain things to let go.

 

Making space to expand into what it is that you’re creating. That’s growth, growth with love. We can meet it with compassion, we can meet it with love.

 

boundaries can be very take take the brown boundary approach with a lot of love.

 

When I first started really talking about boundaries, I was in a place of just playing defense. I thought boundaries are so hard and it’s like don’t fuck with me, right?

 

That doesn’t have to be what boundaries are boundaries are just saying,

Hey, this is what my schedule is.

Or actually i’m not i’m not available before 10am

I’m not available after 5pm

When can I get when can I get this scheduled for you

what works best for you.

 

Protecting your peace

protecting your time

protecting that play time, that creative time that space,

protecting the time that allows you to fill up with love and joy with happiness and whatever it is so that you can come into your world with so much fullness and so much love.

 

Protect your peace. Protect your dreams, protect your aspirations, protect it all with love.